New Tool Helps Officers On Domestic Violence Calls

H8 is on point.

A mindset change needs instituted.

CPD calls are not a family unit’s solution to Dometic Violence.

I am not a cop…nor would I claim to be able to do their job better, or as well, as they can!  BUT, as I previously stated, I am a victim of domestic violence.  And my suggestions, or my ideas, on some of the FIRST tactics on how to handle a domestic violence call, I draw from only 3 of my many, many experiences where the CPD were called and failed me and my kids. First, when the cops were called to my house (on Christmas eve, no less) because my husband was drunk and GRAPHICALLY threatening to GUT me, kill our 2 daughters and take my son and nobody would ever find my son or my body (and, yes, I had witnesses), they came, saw him, told him to calm down, go to bed to sleep off his drunkeness, and not to say things like that again.  Then, advised him that he should be careful because he had a warrant for his arrest, told him I was the one who called, and that perhaps we should “kiss and make up” because he had p*ssed me off enough to call them…..they left and did NOTHING!  My suggestion on what they SHOULD have done: arrest him, charge him, and help me get a restraining order!  The second “experience” was another night he was drunk, again had threatened me (again, in front of witnesses), they, AGAIN, told him to go to sleep, then left without doing ANYTHING!  My suggestion for this one is the same as the first!  The third time, I called the cops, because I knew he had a warrant, and I couldn’t take anymore (the final straw was when I walked into our 2 year old sons room, where he was passed out on our sons floor, and I saw his crack pipe and crack sitting on our sons dresser where our son could reach it….oh, and our son was sitting there too) and I wanted him gone.  They came, put him in handcuffs, led him to the car, drove NOT EVEN a block away, and laughed with him, asking him what he had done to p*iss me off, because I was the one who called!  Then, they LET HIM GO!!!!!  Now, my suggestion here is, obviously take him in on the warrant, but NOT LET HIM GO!  And above EVERYTHING else, DON’T TELL HIM WHO CALLED!!!!  I would think all of these “suggestions” would be common sense, and if not that, PROTOCOL!!!!!!  Maybe I’m just naive…but I don’t think so! 
  There’s SO many women who cry “wolf” and say they’ve been hit, when they haven’t (that’s NOT to take away from the women who HAVE been abused!  They SHOULD call the cops!).  But, because of all the times women cry “wolf”, the cops don’t always take it seriously!  And it isn’t right!  I honestly think women who call the cops saying they’ve been hit, and are found to have made it all up, should have charges filed against them (realizing this would be difficult, it should ONLY be done when there’s NO DOUBT she made it up).  I also FIRMLY believe it should be MANDATORY that the cops who respond to these domestic violence calls should be REQUIRED to do more investigating!!!!  But, if NOTHING else, in the 3 examples I gave from my own experiences, my husband (now my ex husband) should have been arrested, there should’ve been a restraining order, and they should NOT be allowed to tell the abuser who called!  It could’ve ended SO much worse for me!  He could’ve came home and killed me!  I DO NOT think, even for one second, that it is out of the realm of posibilities!  I got lucky….but how many other women (and even some men) will be as lucky???  When will the cops (or the “powers that be”) wake up and at least let common sense prevail????